@crashman39, I do not remember exactly which module I gave you but all of mine do have all the signals available. Some do not have pins along the sides installed (e.g. RTS on some here) and you can solder a pin yourself.
It will then flash it automatically, however I found that I need to remove the DTR/RTS wires for it to function afterward.
BTW, are you sure it is COM9 that you should use? This should be simple to check: connect the GND/Tx/Rx wires (only), then reset the module (RST pin is closest to the left of the antenna, GND is the metal can) and you should see something (even garbage) on the aruino serial monitor. If you see nothing then swap the Tx/Rx. Then try another COM port…
The monitor should run at 115200.